Expectations
For many of these, usually young, healthy individuals presenting with conception difficulties, it was the first time they had consulted about anything more serious than a cold or vaccination. They understood that the GP orders initial investigations and tests, and acts as gatekeeper to specialists. Many realised that they needed to try to conceive for at least 1 year before visiting their GP and had high expectations of the first consultation. For others, the consultation was the first step in acknowledging there was a problem; this was sometimes embarrassing or even frightening. Maggie, aged in her early 30s, described her shock at being referred to a specialist:
‘I just thought there would be something simple that we had overlooked. There wasn't, and … and they said we needed to see a specialist. Which was very, very scary. I remember at that point — I think this was the first of my bursting into tears in doctors' waiting rooms — I think the shock of it, and also it felt very serious all of a sudden. If we were seeing a specialist, a fertility specialist, then there was a problem with our fertility.’ (Maggie)
However, expectations varied. Some people's expectations of their GP were more measured; some only expected a referral, and others understood there are limits to what their GP, or anyone else, could do. Sarah had endometriosis and had several failed attempts at in-vitro fertilisation (IVF); she was sanguine about what her GP could offer:
‘You know, I am not really, it is not that I wanted more from them than they offered, but [3-second pause] there is a kind of a limit to … yes, what anybody else can do for you really.’ (Sarah)
The importance of being taken seriously
Participants described looking to their GP for advice, information, and support through all stages of treatment. They also valued feeling that their GP was interested and that their concerns were being taken seriously. This was evidenced by GPs appearing engaged, committing time, being open to further visits and questions, making swift referrals for tests, displaying knowledge about infertility, and offering information.
Jane, who went on to have successful IVF, described her GP's proactive and sympathetic approach:
‘They listened, they were caring … um … you know and one, you know, as I said, if you had an idea about what you thought might be causing or it may be you should this, he didn't pooh-pooh it, he just said, “Fine. We will look at that.” And … um … very quick about referrals and things like that, so yes.’ (Jane)
GPs who seemed familiar with infertility treatments were appreciated; likewise, some patients welcomed receiving sensible advice about options and being asked how they wanted to proceed with treatment. Marine, who conceived her daughter after four IVF cycles, described how she was warned by her GP about the long, potentially difficult, journey ahead and reminded that she could stop treatment at any point. She appreciated this engagement with her situation and the realistic assessment of the challenges ahead:
‘You know, what she, yes that's it, she was really good, because we came after the year after the ectopic and said, “Okay we've tried ra ra ra”. And she said, “That's fine. I'm going to refer you. This is what's going to happen. You need a sperm test. You go to see the infertility nurses.” And then she said, “Remember this could be a long process and there's a lot of choices coming up that you need to make, and remember that at any point you can say no.” So she was really good actually, yes, she was brilliant. Hmm. Hmm.’ (Marine)
Those with poor experiences of primary care said they felt ‘fobbed off’, dismissed, or that the GP was not interested and they had wasted their time. Martha, who experienced secondary infertility and ultimately had IVF to conceive her second child, described her GP's resistance:
‘The kind of “Why are you here? You have already got one, you know, there shouldn't be a problem” kind of thing. And I think that I was just, you know, sort of shocked that they could overlook how completely destructive this was, you know, for all of us in the family and, to an extent, beyond it as well.’ (Martha)
Being allowed time and being offered the opportunity to return to discuss the problem were both viewed by patients as an indication of being taken seriously by their GP. Those who felt they were not given the time they needed described feeling let down. Maggie explained why this was a problem during her first GP appointment:
‘And I guess that was something that I did find, find hard. Because at, we'd been trying for 2 years at this stage, I'd got a lot of questions to ask … um … and my doctor didn't have time to answer those questions … We had this appointment with her that raised more questions than it answered.’ (Maggie)
Some felt that their GP did not know much about infertility, and should know more, given its prevalence:
‘For GPs and nurses, just get educated. When someone is there for a blood test for an IVF cycle and they have been trying for a family for 3 years. Telling that, “Ah it took me 3 months to fall pregnant with my second child, so I know how you feel” is really quite inappropriate. Um … and GPs know nothing [about] infertility unless they have been, have some personal experience.’ (Naomi)
Maggie found it difficult to understand what her GP was telling her and would have liked information pitched at the right level to be taken away and considered:
‘I think I would have liked my doctor to be able to, to maybe just give us some information to take home with us and digest. Both of us were sitting in that meeting room with the doctor. My husband would have his questions, I had my questions, she was trying to convey some information to us. There were words just flying about the place and, I think, you know, very few of them actually went in for any of us. In a way, I think it would have been good to have something … written on paper that we could take away with us and digest, certainly about what our options were and the route we would be taking. Because we didn't have a huge amount of, well, fortunately neither of us have ever been particularly ill, so the whole process, the kind of, you know, GPs and nurses and consultants and hospital visits, was alien to us.’ (Maggie)
Support from the GP
Several participants described their GPs as having an ongoing, supportive interest, even after referral to fertility specialists. Jane described her GP as ‘very supportive’. Steve — who, together with his wife had several unsuccessful treatment cycles, and eventually adopted two boys — commented:
‘We had a lovely old-fashioned Dr Finlay's Casebook kind of GP who was probably incredibly politically incorrect but he was actually also one of the most supportive medical staff that we came across. And he was genuine in his support and his irritation that there wasn't more help available to us from, in terms of funding and you know, why he couldn't maybe give us drugs on prescription … so he was lovely.’ (Steve)
Some participants felt that their GPs were aware that the consequences of infertility could endure after treatment has stopped. These doctors were seen as supportive and empathetic, helping people to pick up the pieces after failed treatment, which might include referral for counselling. In contrast, some females did not receive the support they wanted from their GP, especially after treatment failed. Carol, who had been having fertility treatment for 9 years, was disappointed that her GP did not investigate her recurring urinary tract infection. She felt no empathy for her worry that infections were contributing to her treatment failure:
‘The last time I saw him I was having recurring urinary tract infections and I said that I was desperately worried, that I felt that this was impacting, firstly on the treatment, because some of them happened during my treatment, and he literally would not send me for more tests to see if there was any problems with my urinary tract, as to why I was susceptible to it. And I said, “Look, you know, I am spending thousands of pounds on this, if it was your money I am sure that you would want reassurance.” And, literally, he just didn't want to know and I ended up really screaming at him. I was so angry and I just walked out and I haven't been back since. And his last comment to me was, “Isn't it about time you thought about adopting now?”’ (Carol)
Joanna gave up on fertility treatment and adopted two girls. She felt that her GP demonstrated no empathy for her situation but, rather, seemed uncaring, making comments that she found inappropriate and upsetting:
‘The other thing he said was, “Well you've had most of your life without children, why do you suddenly decide you want children?” And I just thought that was bizarre. So I would have liked a little bit more understanding.’ (Joanna)